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Parent Playgroup Born On The Train

I thought it kinda makes sense to start this website by giving you a little insight into myself and the reason why I decided to start this blog in the first place. Firstly I have no idea how this will go, it could be read by 3 people in 3 months and I could just get bored of it all and never touch it again but I’d much prefer the site started to grow and hopefully parents/readers could get something from this site.

So a little bit about moi I guess. I am a 36 year old father of four wonderful children. Two girls and two boys aged 12, 7, 5 and 18 months at the time of writing. I am self employed so luckily I get the chance to spend a lot of time with my little monsters.

The idea for this blog started a few months back, here have this cup of hot cocoa and I’ll tell you the story. I was sat on a train to Euston station, I sometimes choose the slow train because I find the train a great place to write on my laptop. If my office was a slow train I’d get so much more work done but that right there is another matter.

I found myself sat opposite a mother and her two children. Her boy must have been two years old or so while her daughter sitting to her right was roughly 8 years old or so.

I remember the mother was talking to her son very loudly, you know the type right? The old ‘look at me speaking a little louder in public so everyone can hear me’ type. If that’s you then please stop it.

Anyway, it was getting increasingly difficult to focus on what I was doing at the time, when I glanced up I noticed that she pretty much had her back to her eldest and was cooing over her younger child. I observed this continue throughout the journey and when the eldest attempted to make conversation she was quickly dismissed and paid very little attention in a manner that was quite different to the over the top hyped up version that the son received.

Shortly afterwards the daughter started getting off her chair and swinging on the handle bars which got mum over there pretty wound up. The daughter’s behaviour was visibly changing in front of our eyes and it appears that mum was pretty oblivious to what had been happening.

The eldest daughter was being pretty much ignored for the journey and when she made conversation her mum acted as if she was simply an annoyance. She then decided the only way to get noticed was to misbehave.

It was all quite fascinating and sad to see this play out in front of me. I felt like handing her a note explaining her daughters behaviour when it was safe enough to run off the train but it really wasn’t any of my business.

It got me thinking after she got off a few stops later, what if more people understood what impact their behaviour has on children? What if we could make a difference by educating at least one person. I include myself in that, you always learn as parents and I am by no means any sort of expert.

So after that experience I decided to finally give birth to Parent Play Group. A blog where I will share various parenting experiences and hopefully get a lot of contributors/readers sending in stories/situations of their own.

I don’t want this blog to be exclusively about myself but I guess it is a starting point.

Before I go can I ask those who have stumbled upon these pages to leave a quick comment just so I know I am not talking to myself completely. I’d really appreciate that.

’till the next time